What Does It Mean — "Yes You Can Do It!" ?
By Lydia Proschinger
Let me explain: And by the way, thanks for your wonderful messages. I received many and the questions you addressed around the L.O.V.E. process were much appreciated. I will reply to you in more detail about this at another moment. At this moment, I have become concerned about something that was in the undertone of many of the messages I received; a big part of you feels that “Yes, I want to do it,” and then you just don’t because you’re not too keen on the amount of work that’s involved in getting it done. Others quit because they feel “Yes, I can do it!” but the moment something goes wrong they hand it over to someone and tell him “Yes, You Can Do It!”
Here in our club everyone is in the same boat, and each one is helping the other, in some way or form. Can I speak some truth? Well, the frustration levels in some of the messages I received were high. People were faced with “life” and the big questions about decisions, and the most frightening of all, the “time” factor, that most of you write about as making some things seemingly impossible. Here is really something that I hope will help you to find out what it really means to say this phrase “Yes, You Can Do It!” I am more than conscious about how you will feel when I say this, but I point to each and every one of you because it is true that some things, and yes, time is one of them, are finite resources. Read on and find out which other resources are infinite, and how that makes you have infinite possibilities to succeed.
YES
Time is not on your side when you don’t take action and make a clear decision. So the first key word you need to make sure you use to trigger some positive action is “Yes!” Make that a loud and cheerful one that resonates with the universe, because you say it with so much conviction that no matter who comes your way to give you self-doubt will be blown away because you have made up your mind. This “yes” is totally free and fearless and decides to make a change. This willingness to change is what will get you from A to B, each step of the way.
Here is the reality of it: When you keep saying, “Yes, you can do it…!” then you must think again about why you’re not happy with your results. What’s the other key word in this affirmation? No, at this stage it’s not “it.” Although, whatever “it” is that you’re busy with right now is important to you, and you must be giving it lots of your attention to feel it’s worth enough your time and thought to make it into something really amazing. The key word you’re looking at, at this stage of the process, is what should take up most of your mental capacity. Keep feeding that with conviction and drive. So if it’s not “it,” what else is it? Give… it... your… wildest… guess…?
YOU
Obviously, it’s YOU! How much time are you investing in your goals, without really feeding all your needs, which are on a spiritual, personal and relational level? Are you taking care of your health? This YOU is essential to get your project off the ground and to completion. The point is this — the more time goes by, the more you don’t see things shaping and giving you the desired return on all of your investments, the more you doubt and tend to think about “what’s wrong?” and “What is wrong with your idea?” or you simply feel like things are just not getting anywhere, and you decide to quit. Well, perhaps you need to change your mantra. The “You” in this affirmation is the empowering part. Are you with me? This YOU is the part that has all the responsibility and although that sounds like a really big word, it’s really good to live up to the reality of what your situation is teaching you.
Perhaps it’s impatience, perhaps it’s the lack of self-belief, or it could be that you’re distracted and fail to focus on one thing, and then start blaming your closest friends or family. Do you really want “it” to happen? You affirmed that question with “yes.” Good!!! Then ultimately, the part of this “you” that seems to go as far as working 48 hour shifts will want to be happy. Nature gave us all the same basic elements, and being successful won’t change that. So give this “you” more attention. Let this “you” hear you love it and give it more attention so that this greatest actor in your movie won’t quit giving your ambition that needed support.
There are too many of you who are going through this part of creating your “it” all alone. So beginning at any venture, to make it a successful business, relationship, creative process or anything that involves YOU, all this requires “you” to be happy and motivated. How can you get the support you need when you’re feeling that nobody is supporting you? Keep reading and you’ll find out exactly where.
So, if you ever thought that you can actually hand over your business to other people before you’ve completed your job you have already cashed in your chips before you played. Well, maybe you’re not much of a gambler, so yes, I agree then you can turn around and make your next job a great one. But if you are someone who really feels that this is “it,” and you are building this but it needs a little more of “you,” then you can’t just quit yet, while sulking “I can’t.”
CAN
Here is the key element in this “Yes you can do it” equation: The “CAN” implies that you know something about what it is you’re doing — a skill or ability, a knowledge or faculty. In some of the messages I received I was reading between the lines and what I read was, “I’m just going to do it, no matter what it takes.” Although I command this zeal and passion, it’s the kind of spirit that will maybe let you run a short distance and leave you burned-out after that short run, or you feel stuck because you didn’t do enough research. What I recommend here is hold some of your impatient horses until you know exactly WHAT it is you are doing.
Once again, please don’t take this question lightly. There is no “light” version of learning. Most learning processes are painful and the more pain the circumstances have caused you, the longer (one would hope) you’ll remember and retain the lesson. So, perhaps you’ll agree that doing anything needs you to keep learning about what it is you’re doing, read about what’s new and improved and give yourself the credit that “you can do almost anything if you want to do it bad enough” (to quote my good friend Bill Rogers).
Many people are too light-headed in their ventures and have a little more than blind faith in how things are going to be done. I read more and more literature, especially about the law of attraction, that says “Don’t worry about the “how,” meaning how things are being shaped, “it’ll reveal itself to you” as if some magic was going to be active. Although I have experienced some serendipitous moments, here is the nuance I take on that magical realization of things. If it works, you would want to recreate it, so you want to know how it’s done. Take that statement and pin it to a wall!
Although I truly believe that something is created without you knowing much about it in the first place, you add to that knowledge and such serendipitous moments will happen more frequently because you make new connections in your mind and in linking one thing to the other, one person to the other, one business to the other, and as you’re weaving your web (another word for business), then you feel that what you’re doing is worth your time and energy. When you’re doing something that is going to take up most of your time, you’d best be responsible for it. You want to be able to step up and say, “I did this.” Once you’ve done it, you know about how it’s done, and ideally become a mentor to others who don’t know. Here is the key — get a mentor if you don’t know! Get a coach involved. And I don’t mean that you have to learn as much as an engineer so that you can drive a car. What I mean is that you learn just enough so that you are able to change the oil of your car (= your venture) and give it enough fuel so that you’ll never run out of the vital ingredient which is “E” for energy. It’s the most important part of your equation because that’s what life really is.
DO
Now here is the part when you actually make the realization that this process is highly charged with energy, because you have to “do” things. I hear people complain often about how much they "have to do.” Here is that same “E” that is representing energy in E=mc². So where should it come from when it’s not from you doing something? Why complain about how much you have to do? This “E,” which, ever since Einstein’s theory, is defined not by the mass multiplied by the amount of time you let pass, but by the mass that’s multiplied by the “c,” squared. This “c” stands for the speed of light, which ultimately is considered a physical constant, and I want you to note this well as a c-o-n-s-t-a-n-t, which is the metric unit of exactly 299 792 458 metres per second (in a vacuum). Do you think that’s fast? Think again — that is you doing things and not letting things happen to you. If you feel that is fast and if you think you need to get things moving, then NOW is a good moment to activate your venture with a high energy level. Getting things done with processes that show results in a shorter amount of time, with a higher degree of clarity in the action taken is that constant, just like the “c” in the above equation.
IT
Now we get to that “it” of yours. Once accomplished, “it” makes for the special “Z.I.N.G. effect;” when you finally see things HAVE come to BE and you ARE at the point of completion of that “it” you were waiting to build for so long. By the way, Z.I.N.G. stands for Zeal, Inspiration, New ideas, and Guidance, and is virtually endless. Unlike time, these are infinite resources, which you’ll just keep altering while you never quit the process. You’ll realize that the process is more important than the outcomes. The failures are as good as the moments of success, really. It’s all a matter of how you look at it, and more importantly, what you make of it.
If you’re the kind of person who sits there, envisioning things getting done on their own, I strongly recommend you get up now. Move around, do something to shake off the dust of the centuries that has collected on your shoulders, get rid of the spider webs and shake your lazy bones, replace them with the ones that will make your plan turn into reality, if not gold, and start loving the process of change with the speed of thought. Change the way you think and you change your results. By adding new and improved versions of the “you” in the game you add to the knowledge you previously had, and suddenly you see that you are unstoppable.
What are you waiting for? What it is you are doing? I would love to know! Share your thoughts and write to me, and I’ll be writing about your questions to me again in the next column that makes you feel that “Yes You Can Do It!”